Author: Cliff Robertson (page 2 of 3)

How to Stay Grounded in Life’s Most Trying Times

Life can be unpredictable. One moment, everything is rosy. The next, you are facing one challenge or the other. Regardless, giving up isn’t an option. These trying times bring the best out of you.

“When adversity strikes, that’s when you have to be the calmest. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded, and press on.” – LL Cool J.

However, how do we stay calm, grounded, and press on? In this post, we will be providing you with insightful tips to help you stay grounded when facing various life challenges.

Stop Worrying

When life’s turbulence has hit you, it is normal to feel sad and downcast about it. But that is not the best way to handle the challenge life has thrown at you. Worrying does not solve the issue, rather it compounds it. If life throws you down, get up, smile, and press on.

Stay Away From What is Causing You Trouble

If you continue doing what that hurts you, then there is no way you can withstand the challenges that come with it. Stop and observe what is happening, and find out how to improve your situation.

Do Not Listen to Negative People

Listening to people that have a negative perspective of life is akin to pouring gasoline into a fire to put it out; it just gets worse. When you are facing hard times, read motivational books, speak with positive thinking people and you will be inspired to stay grounded.

Take Action

Some people when life’s vicissitude has hit them sulk and cry. The truth is that remedy will not come your way if you sit down and get sad about your situation. Get up and put the solutions you have learned into work.

Make Self-Care a Priority

If you want to survive tough situations, you have to consider self-care as essential. When you eat the right food, surround yourself with positive people, you are building your mind and body. Start taking care of yourself so that you will be able to stay grounded and face the storm.

This can also include using supplements that seek to support a healthy internal response to stress and anxiety. Carlson Labs, Perque, and Vinco are supplement brands with products carefully formulated using nutrients, herbals, and other ingredients to provide optimal support for mind and body.

Accept What Has Happened

One of the reasons many are depressed during tough times is that they fail to acknowledge the situation. If it is something you do not have control over, accept it is something beyond you, and move on. If otherwise, get and start looking for a solution.

There you have it! Above are some useful tips to help you stay grounded during life’s most trying times. Never let tough times define you. With the tips above, you can stay grounded and get past any challenge you are going through.

The Communication Benefits of Music

Introduction

It is often said that music is food to the soul, this is no exaggeration for music is like a language of its own, more elaborate, fluid and powerful. There are many types of music and various instruments for making music, from drums to pianos to vintage guitars. No matter the type of music or the instrument used to make it, music is a means that people can communicate their intentions, emotions, and parts of themselves that mere words cannot comprehensively convey. Music can ease communication with people that find it hard to communicate due to physical or mental disabilities, this is part of the reasons music therapy is a vibrant field. Music can have profound effects on people, whether physical or emotional, or both, it can communicate things subtly, music can be used for adverts, in social settings and it is also an inextricable part of the culture. Music is a major aspect of communication, both symbolic and literal. In this article, we will explore some of the communication benefits of music.

Communication Benefits of Music

  1. Music Helps to Maintain Concentration: in communication, it is of utmost importance to concentrate on what is being said to you and what you are saying, a lack of this can result in miscommunication and the information that you had desired to pass will not be effectively passed and received. This problem can be solved with music because music is very interesting and easy to concentrate on for a long time, using music to communicate can effectively solve the concentration problem and your information will be passed better and on a deeper level.
  2. Music Aids Eye Contact and Nonverbal Communication: when you incorporate music into communication you cannot help but engage in nonverbal communication including eye contact which in turn increases the effectiveness of communication.
  3. Development of Vocabulary: music encourages the use of words and weaving these words with other words to form rhymes and rhythm, music also involves the use of repetition, all these develops the vocabulary of people and our communication is better for it.
  4. Development of Sentence Construction: as already stated, music involves the repetition of words and sentences, hearing them repeatedly helps us to better appreciate their meaning and understand what they convey. When you understand music well your ability to construct sentences whether simple or complex is bound to increase.
  5. Phonological Appreciation: communication involves many aspects and to communicate effectively you need to have a sound grasp of phonology. Your appreciation for syllables, rhythms, alliteration, and rhyme can take your communication skills to the next level whether written or verbal. You would be able to break words down to their smallest components, know their meaning and sounds, and rearrange them. There is no form of communication that does this better than music, this will benefit your ability to communicate tremendously.
  6. Music aids the understanding of sequencing in communication: all languages have rules just like music, one of these rules is sequencing. This is the order in which components in a form of communication is presented to make the most sense, be it the way words in a sentence are presented or sounds in a word or sentences in a body. Music makes it easier to understand sequencing and this benefits communication.
  7. Healing of the Body and Soul: music as a deep form of communication has helped people in innumerable ways, music can help you express your emotions, vent your anger and frustration, people can understand how you feel better when you communicate through music because they feel it deeper. After you engage in all these you can find inner peace. Medical research has shown that there are many health benefits of music which include regulating your breathing, improving your emotions, and helping to lift depression as well as increasing your motor skills.

Conclusion

There are many benefits of music, I hope our exploration of some of them in this article enlightens you.

How to Avoid Parental Alienation in Shared Custody Divorces

Divorces are known to have a harmful impact on a parent-child relationship. The manifestation of parental alienation in a child can happen in several forms. A parent can deny the other parent custody of the child and actively seek to turn a child against that parent. For example, due to the mother’s anxiety over losing custody of her child, she might indirectly say hurtful lies about the father.

Parental alienation in kids can lead to depression, eating disorders, anger issues, educational problems, drug addiction, and more. With rates of divorce having increased over the generations, parental alienation through a divorce is steadily on the rise. In some cases, the parental alienation dies down over time. There are also rare cases where it does not lessen, which can result in devastating blows to the victim. However, for parents going through a divorce, there are some ways that both of you can work together to prevent parental alienation.

Always See Your Child

It can be discouraging and frustrating when your ex is stonewalling your efforts to reach your child. However, this doesn’t imply that you should throw in the towel and lose grip of your child. They need you in their life and will appreciate that you didn’t quit trying to reach them. Keep fighting and doing everything humanly possible to contact them. Your efforts are going to pay off someday. 

Visit a Therapist

Additionally, you can avoid parental alienation when in shared custody by visiting a therapist or expert. Going to a therapist can help you identify parental alienating and help nip it in the bud. They can also help you provide evidence for support of your case in court.

Request to See Your Child in Writing

If you are fighting against parental alienation in court, you can ask to see your child in writing to gather evidence to support your case. By making this request, you will have irrefutable proof that your ex is acting selfish and denying you custody of your child. 

There you have it! Above are some ways to avoid parental alienation in shared custody divorces. Parental alienation is a very bad thing for a child or parent to experience. No child should be denied the care of a parent or a parent denied custody of their child. You can avoid this situation by adhering to the measures above.

4 Steps to Stop Selfishness in Relationships

Being selfish does not get you far in a relationship. People will always leave you when they get a sense that you are self-centered. Are you someone that does not care about your partner’s feelings in a relationship? Are you obsessed about your partner giving you attention while you do not reciprocate that same attention? If this sounds like you, then you are selfish.

For any relationship, the partners should be willing to share a bond, make sacrifices, and watch each other’s back. If you are selfish, you can still snap out of it and save your relationship. Below are several ways of how to stop being selfish in a relationship.

Understand That Your Partner Has His or Her Own Life

Your partner has their own set of beliefs, habits, and ways of doing things. Once you realize this, both people will be more comfortable with themselves, and your relationship will work better.

Put Their Interest before Yours

Making your partner your priority is one way of setting the right course in any relationship. You have to put yourself second. Your partner’s happiness should be your primary aim, and as a result your happiness will follow.

Be Empathic

Walking in your significant other’s shoes can be an eye-opener. Before you make any decision, think about how it will affect your partner. For example, before you pick a fight with your partner, think about how it will make them feel. You are bound to be less self-absorbed when you start showing empathy.

Be Willing to Take Criticism

Some people in a relationship are so egocentric that when their partner gives them flak all hell breaks loose. You don’t have to comment on every little thing or make a big deal out of minor issues or conflict. Likewise, both partners should agree to giving and receiving constructive criticism. 

Since relationships are all about making sacrifices, being selfish is one of the surefire ways of destroying your relationship. Fortunately, you can still get out of this situation by following the tips provided above. Still, struggling to figure out the right path forward? Then check out our list of ten things you can do to save a relationship!

How Aging Parents Can Talk with Family About Health Concerns

Talking to aging parents about health concerns is not a simple conversation to have. However, that should not deter children from talking to aging parents about their health because it is very important. But how can you talk to them and get them to open up? Below is a rundown of several ways to talk to aged ones about their health.

Respect Your Parents’ Dignity

As you are talking to your parents about their health, it is important to do so with respect. It is important to maintain a parent-child relationship. It is their health and decision to make whether to listen to you or not. They are more inclined to listen to you if you respect their dignity. If you feel they aren’t able to make those decisions, you will need to speak with a lawyer about obtaining guardianship over them.

Maintain Consistency

The more persistent you are about talking to your aging parents, the more likely they are to come around. While you are being consistent, ensure that you are not disrespectful.

Be Empathic

It is important to see things from your parents’ point of view. Normally we see things from our perspective rather than from theirs. Being empathic helps us to relate better to them about their wants and needs.

Be a Good Communicator

Express your concerns rather than forcefully telling them what to do. Listen to their opinions and ask open-ended questions that further discussions rather than a closed question that will make them dismiss the discussion abruptly. Allow them to take control of the health talk, and they may be more willing to adapt to changes.

Have Other Family Members Present

Lastly, older parents may only want to discuss health concerns in the presence of immediate family. If you have siblings, make sure they are present. Avoid outsiders unless you feel that those people may bring a better approach that is more convincing.

If you aren’t at the stage where such serious conversations need to take place, but rather they have lifestyle habits that you feel aren’t beneficial, then the conversation might wind up being different. Maybe they aren’t seeing a doctor, following a regime of prescriptions, they smoke or drink, or you want them to consider supplements from brands like Irwin Naturals, Metagenics, and Bluebonnet. No matter the reason, consult the above tips but alter them in a way that will yield good results.

Talking to your aged parents about their health is not easy, but if approached in the right way, you may find that the results are better. The tips discussed above are a good way to talk to them about health concerns while also strengthen your relationship.

Negative Parenting and Their Effects on Child Psychology

Children are impressionable. They are influenced by the adults in their lives, and there is clear evidence that they are mostly influenced by their parents. Parenting, therefore, is a task that determines how every person and citizen will turn out. 

Bad parenting is a topic that has been discussed for decades but seems not to be going away anytime soon. Negative parenting, as it can also be called, encompasses several things that culminate in parents not providing the right guidance for their children from the early days to when they are young adults. 

As stated in the paragraph above, negative parenting takes several forms. In its basic form, it happens when the child is not reprimanded or punished for their mistakes. On the other hand, it can happen when excessive punishment is administered to the extent that the child becomes damaged psychologically. Child abuse is an entirely different level of negative parenting. 

For years, parenting has been studied by psychologists, and it has been found that negative parenting affects children in various ways. Some of the effects of negative parenting on child psychology include: 

Antisocial Behavior 

Children who exhibit antisocial behaviors care nothing about how their actions can hurt others. Inconsistent and hard parenting, as well as parental drug abuse and domestic violence, lead to this problem. 

Poor Resilience 

Children who were not properly brought up are never resilient. They can’t cope with social, emotional, physical, and behavioral hardships. This results from not teaching a child coping skills as well as not being responsive in times of need. 

Depression 

Poor parenting also results in child depression. Such factors as low levels of overall support, parental depression, physical punishment, and unhealthy expression of negative emotions contribute to depression in children. 

Aggression 

Aggression is another psychological problem suffered by children who were and are being denied proper parenting. It has been found that children who have poor relationships with their mothers tend to be more aggressive. When parents express negative feelings towards their children and have serious conflicts with them, the children eventually become more aggressive. 

Helplessness 

Negative parenting also exposes the child to feelings of helplessness. In the early days, when they are dependent on their parents’ poor treatment, which is a part of negative parenting, it makes them feel lost and helpless. This feeling of helplessness mostly follows the individual into adulthood.  

There you have it! Above are some of the effects of negative parenting on a child’s psychology. Bad parenting is among the leading causes of mental issues such as depression, aggression, helplessness, and more. As parents, we should learn to use more of good parenting when training our kids.

How to Overcome Helplessness in All Aspects of Life

Life is tough. This becomes more apparent are you get older. At some point in your life, you will feel helpless. This is especially true in the time of trauma and it can be very difficult to shake off that feeling and move on. It is important to understand that helplessness is a learned trait; this isn’t a slight against you, but there are reasons why other people don’t feel this way. Their upbringing, what has or hasn’t happened to them, and physical and mental health all play parts in this. 

With that being said, It is possible to unlearn helplessness and do something better with your life. Here are some of the ways to do that. If you find that you need help, reaching out to a support group, counselor, or therapist can be a big step in the right direction.

You Are Not a Victim 

Most people that feel helpless often have the negative idea that life is trying to mess them up. Some people feel that the world is conspiring against them. The first thing to realize is that you are not a victim. There may be several other people passing through similar things as you. While your circumstances may be the result of someone else’s doing, continuing to blaming them will prevent you from taking control of your life and moving forward.

Life is Full of Ups and Downs 

You also need to realize that life is full of ups and downs. If you are in a very bad situation, chances are you will rise above them someday. All it takes is time and effort. Accept the bad days and believe that better days will come, but don’t forget to work towards improving whatever situation you may be in.

Change is Constant 

Another important thing you need to realize is that change is constant. If you are in a terrible situation right now, it is definitely not going to be the end of the road. Life events can turn things around with just little intervention from you.

Ask For Help 

While being self-reliant is important, you need to realize that asking for help is not a bad thing. We all need somebody to lean on sometimes in or lives. Do not be afraid to ask for help. Even if you get no for an answer, try other sources. 

Take Positive Action  

You need to take positive action to overcome helplessness in all areas of life. When you are in a dire situation, take action, make changes, and fight to get out of that situation. In some cases, you will be surprised at how quickly things can turn around. 

There you have it! Above are some tips to overcome helplessness in all aspects of your life. Feeling helpless at times is one of the expected things in life. However, with the tips above, you can hopefully get started down a path to overcome these feelings.

How to Get Out of a Career You Hate

Making a living demands that you work hard at your job and advance your career. What happens when you hate your job and care very little about your present career? You will dread Monday morning and pray for Friday to arrive as soon as possible. This is not a sustainable way to live and enjoy life. The best thing to do is to get out and pursue your dream. But how do you do this when there are bills to pay and you are fully responsible for yourself and others? 

Here are our suggestions on steps to take: 

Define Your Ideal Life

The first thing is to determine what you feel is an ideal life. Be specific with what you love and feel will provide greater joy. 

Dream Big, But Be Realistic

Getting from where you are at present to where you want to be in the future can be tough. You need to be realistic with what it will take. Understand that it will take time and other supporting resources. Make sure your family is onboard. They need to know that you might not be around or as focused on their needs during this time. With that, be mindful that once you get into a new career, you need to put family first.

Make a Plan

When you know what you want and understand the sacrifices you will have to make, the next important thing is to make plans about how to realize your dream. Be realistic with your plan too. 

Practice Patience

Your dream life will take time to come; you need to realize this in the early days. You need to be patient as you work your way from the career you hate to the one you dream of. 

Mind Your Finances 

Now that you want to get out of a career you hate, you need to become more careful with the way you spend. Chances are things will get tougher as you withdraw from your current job to pursue your dream. 

Take Baby Steps

It is important that you make changes slowly. Be careful with each decision and take things slowly. 

Endure Hardship and Keep Moving

Things can get tough in the early days, but do not let this get to you so much. Endure the hard days and work harder to achieve your dream. 

There you have it! Above are some tips to help you get out of a career you hate. You don’t have to force yourself into pursuing a career that you are disinterested in. With the tips above, you can get out of such career path and follow your interests or dreams.

How Can You Solve An Emotional Disconnection In Marriage?

In a society, marriage is regarded as the most important relationship. In addition to bringing lovers together, it establishes a family and is expected to nurture one. It is no secret that modern marriages suffer lots of challenges. One of the most dangerous ones is emotional disconnection. 

Emotional disconnection in marriages can have severe repercussions on all members of the family. It can bring unhappiness and dissatisfaction. Ultimately, it can end a marriage, no matter how strong it might seem on the outside. If you know you have grown emotionally detached from your partner, it is important that you try to solve these problems as soon as possible if you want to save your marriage. How do you solve these larger issues? We will briefly discuss a few ways to attempt that below. 

Recognize When Your Partner Needs You 

Many couples ignore each other’s emotional needs out of mindlessness, not malice. If you learn to recognize when your partner needs you, you are halfway to solving the problem of emotional disconnection. 

Try To Talk Things Out 

You don’t achieve anything by keeping your emotions and opinions to yourself. Talking with your partner is one of the best ways to find out what they need and how to attend to their emotional needs. 

Beware of Your Manner of Speaking 

Your manner of speaking can make or mar your relationship. When trying to solve the problem of emotional disconnection in marriage, watch your manner of speaking to ensure that it will heal old wounds and not open new ones. 

Use Relevant Questions That Gets Your Partner Talking

Healthy conversations are among the greatest tools you can use in solving marital issues. There are relevant questions that can get your partner interested in the conversation, so make sure that you identify and ask these questions. Open conversations can heal most marital issues. 

Respect and Appreciate Your Partner 

Showing respect and appreciation is one of the best ways to keep your partner. Even when things are going sour, people want to be respected. Avoiding bad manners like interrupting your partner, shouting at them, or belittling their efforts around the home, can deepen your disconnection and ruin any hope of reconciliation. 

There you have it! Above are some tips for solving an emotional disconnection in marriage. Emotional disconnection is one of the biggest reasons for unhappiness in a marriage. With the tips above, you stand a good chance of solving problems saving your marriage. 

Applying these tips will go a long way in mending the cracks in your marriage and keeping your family together.

How to Handle a Partner Who Spends All Their Time Gaming

People love gaming, this is a fact. Another truth is that most partners will have to deal with a partner who won’t put down the controller and participate in chores or spending time together. Do you have a partner who spends most of their time gaming? Are you feeling that this habit has the potential to ruin your relationship? Do you really need help? 

We will try to be as real as possible while discussing what we feel can be the best way to handle such a partner. 

Firstly, you need to understand if your partner is truly addicted to gaming or just looking for ways to stay away from you. If you have been in the relationship for a while, you must know if their gaming is a new habit or something that has been there for a long while. If the former is the case, it may be that your partner is getting tired and using gaming as an excuse to get away. If, on the other hand, your partner has been gaming for a long while, it is important that you try to correct this excessiveness.

Talk With Your Partner 

Your partner may not know how much their gaming habit affects you until you talk about it. If it is truly taking a toll on your relationship, try to talk to your partner about the habit and hear what they have to say about it. 

Try to Play Games With Them Too

You can get closer to your partner by playing games with them. Games can be addictive, so you have to keep your mind on the mission, which is to spend more time with them and get them to be less reliant on gaming. 

Initiate Meaningful Time Together 

Boredom is one of the reasons many take to gaming. If there is a chance of enjoying more meaningful hours with your partner, most gaming addicts will change. 

Step Out With Your Partner for Outdoor Activities 

Outdoor activities can be helpful in addressing gaming addictions. You don’t have to go to expensive places. Just make sure that a good amount of your free hours are spent outdoors where gaming is not an option. People who live a sedentary lifestyle are at risk of struggling when heading outdoors for the first time in a long time. Allergy Research Group, Douglas Laboratories, and Vital Nutrients offer supplements that may help with feelings of motivation, recovery, and energy production.

Do Not Expect Quick Results 

It is also important that you approach the issue carefully and patiently. Do not expect quick results as you try to make your partner spend less time gaming. 

There you have it! Above are some tips for dealing with a partner that spends all their time playing games. Dealing with a partner who spends all their time gaming can be very difficult. With the tips above, you can expect some positive results. If done right, you can expect an improvement in your relationship.

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