How to Make Amends With Someone

Making amends is a process that takes time. Amends are a way to show yourself that you can be better and make things right in your life. They don’t always fix a relationship, but they do show you’re willing to learn from your mistakes and make changes for the future.

Identify the wrongdoing and your part in it

Begin by identifying the wrongdoing and your part in it. Be specific, as this is an important first step toward making amends. Once you’ve identified what happened, acknowledge that it was wrong of you to do what you did—and then let go of any anger or hurt feelings that may still be lingering from your prior relationship with the person whose trust has been broken. 

Accept responsibility

It’s important to accept your part in the problem, and to realize that it was not all your fault. You can’t make amends if you don’t recognize your part in the problem, which means coming to terms with how much blame you deserve for something that has happened. If there is any way for you to lessen your responsibility for what happened, do so; but if not, then own up and accept full responsibility for what happened (and why).

Acknowledge how your actions hurt others

Acknowledging how your actions hurt others is an important part of making amends. You don’t have to go into extreme detail about how you hurt someone or make excuses for why it was okay for you to do so. Instead, simply say something like: “I’m sorry I did that, and I hope that can be fixed so we can move forward together.”

Commit to making changes

A person who is making amends with you will likely want to do so quickly. They may not have time for long-term commitment, but they do want to make changes as soon as possible. This is where you need to be careful about how far your efforts go—you don’t want them thinking that if they just change enough things in their life and quit drinking or hanging out with the wrong crowd, everything will be fine.

Take action to make things right

Making amends is a journey, not an event. It’s about learning how to forgive and move forward in the best possible way, so you can learn from this experience for the future.

If you’re not sure what action to take, consider these options:

Apologize directly and sincerely

If someone has been hurt by something you’ve done or said, apologize as soon as possible—and do it sincerely! Your apology should be heartfelt but also brief; don’t try to justify yourself or explain yourself too much because then they may feel like they’ve been blamed for something (which isn’t fair). You can write down your thoughts beforehand if it helps with this process; then just say “I’m sorry” once more before moving on with whatever else needs doing at that moment (like making dinner).

Do something nice

Make amends by doing something nice for them in person instead of sending flowers later on through mail delivery services like Fedex or UPS which tend not carry enough value when compared against other options like gift cards from stores like Target/Walmart etc..

Understand that amends don’t always fix a relationship

Amends are about showing yourself that you can be better. They’re not about making someone else feel better, or fixing the problem. If you want to make amends with someone, then it’s important for them to know how much your actions mean to you and what they mean for your life. Remember that there’s no guarantee that your gesture will be accepted by the person who hurt you or impacted negatively on your life in some way—it may even cause more problems!

Making amends is about showing yourself you can be better, not about making someone else feel better

When you’re making amends, it’s important to remember that the goal is not necessarily for someone else to feel better about your behavior. The goal is for yourself—and only for yourself—to improve your own behavior.

Making amends is an important part of being a person. It’s the best way to show that you’re capable of change and that you can be a better person. If you’ve done something wrong, take responsibility for your actions and make things right by doing whatever it takes to make amends. You might also want to consider talking about your amends with a friend or family member who can help you understand how they felt when they were hurt by what happened between you two.